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Boundary Setting Guide

Learn to protect your time, energy, and emotional wellbeing with healthy boundaries

Learn

Understand boundary types

Practice

Scripts for common situations

Build

Create your boundary plan

Signs You May Need Stronger Boundaries

•Feeling resentful toward people you help
•Chronic exhaustion or burnout
•Difficulty saying 'no' even when overwhelmed
•Feeling like you're always giving and never receiving
•Losing your sense of identity in relationships
•Tolerating disrespectful behavior
•Neglecting your own needs for others
•Feeling guilty when you do set limits

Types of Boundaries

Healthy relationships require different types of boundaries. Tap each to learn more.

Key Principles of Healthy Boundaries

1. Boundaries are about YOU, not them

A boundary is what you will do, not what you're demanding someone else do. "I won't stay in this conversation if there's yelling" is a boundary. "You need to stop yelling" is a demand.

2. "No" is a complete sentence

You don't need to justify, argue, defend, or explain your boundaries. A simple "no" or "that doesn't work for me" is enough.

3. Guilt doesn't mean you're wrong

Feeling guilty when setting boundaries is normal, especially if you're not used to it. The guilt is often a sign of growth, not wrongdoing.

4. Boundaries require follow-through

A boundary without consequences is just a suggestion. Be prepared to follow through on what you said you would do.